5 Ways My Make Up Addiction is Healthy…ish!

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When I put on make up, I’m not doing it to pander to antiquated patriarchal ideals of feminine beauty.  I’m doing it because it makes me feel good.            ~#GirlBoss, Sophia Amorous

I know how frustrating it can be for anyone who shares a dwelling with a dedicated make up enthusiast.  *raises her hand loud and proud*. I monopolize the first floor bathroom with all my eye shadow palettes and tubes and jars of creams and powders.  I’d apologize, but to be quite honest, I’m not THAT sorry.  I create excuses to go to Ulta or Sephora! I run an online makeup e commerce site for goodness sake (link found below.) At this point I cannot deny it.  My name is Jennifer and I’m addicted to make up!  BUT, before you judge, let me try and explain.  I welcome you to MY courtroom where we will put my make up addiction on trial.  I’ll let you be the judge.  Is make up worth the trouble and expense?

Opening Remarks:

Your honor, blog nation and esteemed critics, I intend to defend the exasperated notion that women spend too much time (and money) on make up products.  I will demonstrate that this time spent has value and further try and convince the skeptics to view this sacred time with tolerance.   We have heard cries from our children and significant others for centuries.  Now I am choosing to defend sista-nation and shed light on what we’ve known for years, make up is healthy-ish!

My Defense- 5 Ways My Make Up Addiction is Healthy-ish…..

  1.  Like my super fab hustler Sophia Amorous #GirlBoss mentioned above, the #1 reason I wear make up is because it makes me feel good.  When I am feeling depressed or ugly, I  wash my face, grab a cup of coffee (oooooh that is a whole other ‘addiction post’ right there!) and engage in the soothing ritual of putting on ”my face” as my Sittee (Grandma) would say.  The act of prepping my face and picking out colors calms me. The very task of sorting make up brushes makes me feel better.  I feel more in control.  The old adage “you look good, you feel good” seems to be completely true! This brings me to the second reason this addiction is healthy….
  2. Make up application is a natural de-stress.  As a busy mommy of a brilliant 6 year old, a full time police officer and this blogging obsession, I have no other time in my day to focus on myself as I do in the 20 minutes I spend putting on my make up.  I love the coveted time when Lex is in school, to relax, listen to some music and compose myself. Fast forward 3 hours and a client wants a quick face-to-face, I swipe on some fun lipgloss (my fav) and breeze into my meeting, confident and smart with a perfectly coifed face to match.  Which segues nicely into my third point of defense…
  3. Nothing boosts your confidence like looking as though you have your shit together.  Listen, I have nothing against women who have natural beauty.  You know the ones that look like they just rolled out of bed with Max Factor?  I’m just not one of them.  I need some serious foundation and a deft hand with the eye make ups.  But once I “apply myself” and complete my look, I feel like a million bucks.  Every single one of us have had that moment where we catch our reflection in the hallway mirror as we fly past and think to ourselves “Ahhhh!  There she is, there is the inner goddess who is gonna slay this meeting!”  We smile to ourselves and almost pity the poor fool who is on the other side of the negotiating table.  Take THAT Max Factor!
  4. As much as I hate to confirm stereotypes, women are gregarious creatures.  We go to the bathroom in gaggles and love to bond over a good make up sesh!  Goodness, we have entire make up parties where we ohhhh and ahhhh at purple goop we’re applied all over our faces.  My best friend, Jess and I, some times meet at our local MAC store and get our make up done.  In doing so, I’ve become awesome friends with store manager, also named Jen! We chat about life while she creates color magic on my 40 something face.  It’s pampering and FUN!!! Jess and I walk out feeling like mini super heroes….and go to lunch and talk about life.

    I OBJECT! PURPLE GOOP AND PAMPER PARTIES ARE HARDLY A DEFENSE YOUR HONOR!    ~the critics

  5. I disagree!! But even the staunchest of make up meanies will agree that make up is highly transformational!  Party too hard last night?  Feeling under the weather? Need to hide embarrassing scars or marks? Need to let your inner diva out?  Make up can do all these things and more!!!  Lots of women and men will tell truly inspirational stories of transformation.  It’s one of the reasons reality make over shows are so popular.  Make up is emotional , a form of personal expression ancient and wise in origin.

Your honor? Blog Nation? I finally rest my case.  I hope I’ve achieved the goals I set forth for myself.  I hope a few more of you wander out of my digital courtroom with a bit more understanding of the mirky world of cosmetics.   I believe in make up so much that I own online shop of products I love.  I’ll leave you the link HERE!  (This is  an affiliate site meaning I make a few pennies per sale, but I’m a make up junkie to my very core and I would love to see YOUR make up “looks!”)

I am interested in hearing your opinion or your story!  Do you agree or disagree with my make up defense?  Can you share a time when you put on your “girl armor” and rocked? Are you a Pink Collar Girl?  Don’t worry about those critics, just do you!

 

 

 

A Dozen Dates That Don’t Cost a Dime

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Sunset Love

 

Every woman, no matter her age or financial situation, can still nail planning a date like a boss. We have put together this fun list of a dozen dates that don’t cost a dime! This list guarantees some much needed “us time!” No cost dates can be romantic and special for your true love.  Read on for some inspiration!

A Dozen Dates That Don’t Cost You a Dime- Part I

  1. Plan a Yard Project- Build some planter boxes or plant Lilac bushes. They are endless garden ideas available. It gives your manly man a chance to use those sexy power tools and scrap wood!  Try one of these fun ideas, we love #5!   15 One Day Garden Projects Anyone Can Do.
  2. Draw a Bath- Even the bathroom can be a sensual experience. Light some candles, put on über romantic music and add some essential oil to the water and you have a recipe for love! Bathing together can be a smorgasbord of tactile delight and soothing aromas.
  3. Raid the Pantry/Fridge- Just like those fun cooking challenge shows on TV, oftentimes you can make an amazing meal from ingredients you already have at home. Pull together an amazing meal with your love muffin and dine in! Mmmm, you can be dessert!
  4. Love Scavenger Hunt- Make him (or her) work a bit! The prize is well worth the hunt! You can find tons on the internet, we adore this one from The Dating Divas HERE! 
  5. Finish a Project/Clean a Room- Believe it or not, the couple that completes together, stays together. What do you think is the number one most fought over subject in all relationships? Yep! Issues involving cleaning and organizing. Lovingly complete a household project together? Give your closet a make over! Organize the spare bedroom. Throw on some music and have a ball, most of all, the two of you will have fun AND feel productive at the same time!
  6. Picnic- For a modern twist, pack a picnic and surprise him at work! Dine in his office, break room or conference room. Your sweetie will adore your effort and have fun showing you off to his colleagues. If this isn’t practical, then a traditional blanket and basket in a lovely spot is still classy!
  7. A Long Drive- OMG! This is a PCC fav! Load up some awesome traveling music, we love this romantic list: 50 Best Love Songs of All Time! and hit the road (#6 is our fav!) Added bonus points if you stir up a batch of sweet tea or lemonade in a thermos and bring it along! The sense of freedom and singing your favorite songs at the top of your lungs is priceless. Making out in the car like crazy teenagers is the cherry on top!!!
  8. The Home Spa Experience- Light some candles and liberally apply the massage oil. Treat your honey to a loving rub down. In addition to the relaxation benefits, nothing says “I love you” like running your greedy little hands all over his body! If you’re lucky, a sexy massage leads to sexy time! (Pair this with #2 on this list for the Deluxe Package!!) We love this no cost date!
  9. Written Love Gems- Write little notes and leave them all over where your loved one can find them. Thoughtful and sweet, you and your honey will have fun trying to figure out if you’ve found them all!
  10. Bookstore Date- Go to your local big box bookstore and head to the love and romance section. Have fun reading cute, sexy and fun passages from the books available. We adore http://www.5lovelanguages.com/. Life changing!!
  11. Volunteer Together- Working together while helping out a great cause just feels awesome. Volunteering is a bonding experience. Whether it’s a soup kitchen or animal shelter, you are both making a difference together and giving back to your community.
  12. Naked Staycation- This one comes from my best guy friend….dedicate one weekend to this amazing sensory experience. Ditch the clothes and enjoy your staycation, naked! Cuddling and kissing are acceptable pass times. Try and hold out as long as you both can for sexy time. Waiting and experiencing each other heightens the fun and forces you to really appreciate intimacy with your sweetie! (Well done CTV!)

So their you have it! Our dozen amazing dates that won’t cost you a dime. We had so much fun creating this list, we are working on a part two! Please leave us a comment if you tried out anything on our list and stay tuned for more fun date ideas!

Shift Work Sleep Disorder- What you NEED to know!

black and white stark picture of a woman laying on a bed. No covers or pillow. possibly suffering from shift work sleep disorder

The Vampire Lifestyle

Nearly 15 million Americans work a permanent night shift or regularly rotate in and out of night shifts, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics!

I am one of those night owls!  I love living my life in the middle of the night. If vampires were advertising for membership…I’d be first in line!  I was a bartender in college and for the past 15 years I have worked a graveyard shift and I love it! Their is something magical that happens between 3-5 a.m. when the rest of the world is asleep.  It is only in the last 3 years or so that I have started noticing my own physiology changing.  I began feeling like I wasn’t getting quality sleep.  I woke up sore and exhausted and had trouble falling asleep when I got home from work. I would fall asleep AT WORK because I found it impossible to stay awake!! I asked myself why I was so damned tired all the time.  I had never heard of Shift Work Sleep Disorder (SWSD)!

Someone suggested that I might be suffering from SWSD.  I used to cat nap for an hour or two and wake refreshed, able to function for another 12 hours! Not any longer! I realized I was just exchanging my bed for my couch and sleeping through all my days off.  I wasn’t able to keep up with house work and my friendships suffered. Most alarmingly, I wasn’t able to be effective for my 5 year old, Alexis. Being an adult was becoming hard and I was irritable.

The Revelation- What is Shift Work Sleep Disorder?

I was intrigued and began a bit of research. Shift Work Sleep Disorder (SWSD) occurs when your natural circadian rhythms are disrupted by an unusual pattern of sleep. Our bodies fine tune their performance by relying on the environment for cues .  So it makes sense that we are programmed to sleep when it’s dark and quiet and be active when it is daytime.  This pattern of sleep clicks like two polarized sides of a magnet.  But what happens when you turn those magnets around?  They no longer function together.  They are, in fact, repulsed by one another.  That is the type of reaction a third shift sleeper experiences!  How many of us have heard this complaint from a disgruntled 3rd shift coworker: I love the people, but hate the hours?? Studies suggest that people who have worked Third Shift for a period of time might begin to suffer many symptoms:

  1. A disruption in sleep duration- many third shifters report suffering insomnia, inability to sleep longer than 4 hours at a time, and light or restless sleep.
  2. Weakened immune systems- if you’ve ever worked a 3rd shift job, it’s glaringly apparent that you are sick more often than your daytime counterparts! Many 3rd shifters report always feeling “run down!”
  3. Depression- many factors play a role in depression. Lack of sunlight, troubled sleep, inability to connect with loved ones and friends on a regular basis. Experiencing scattered thoughts or feelings, an inability to focus.
  4. Trouble maintaining relationships. This is a very common complaint amongst overnight workers. Because you sleep when everyone else is awake, you do not get the opportunity to visit your friends or loved ones nearly enough. I know I miss out on a lot of birthday outings and fun parties. I feel disconnected from my friends and family and oftentimes they don’t understand my complicated sleep schedule! I often hear “I don’t know when to call you, I don’t want to wake you up!”

Third shift sleepers often feel like they just cannot catch up!  Over a long time period of time, sleep deprivation can contribute to a multitude of health and personal issues.  Industries that require third shift workers: hospital staff, fire fighters, police officers and factory workers to name a few, have started to address SWSD as a growing concern by providing “cat nap” areas in the workplace and insurance coverage for treatment.

Shedding The Coffin- Treatments for SWSD

A variety of medical and non medical treatments exists:

  1.  Provigil and Nuvigil are two medications that can increase alertness and help combat that compelling need to sleep during third shift work hours. You’ll need to consult a doctor in order to begin this course of medication.
  2.  Some 3rd shifters use hypnotism and suggestion to help relax and fall asleep. Who knew counting sheep actually works?
  3.  Melatonin is a natural chemical you can take over the counter in pill form.  Our bodies naturally produce Melatonin to increase drowsiness a few hours before bedtime.
  4.  Some doctors suggest using a lightbox to help realign your sleep timing.  Light acts as a very powerful signal to our internal clock, helping to shift our sleep times forward and backward. Interestingly this same type of UltraViolet light box is being used to help people who suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder….but that’s an entire other post!!
  5.  This next one was huge for me. You can greatly affect the quality of your sleep by keeping your room super dark with black out shades (here are the ones I love!) and also by keeping the temperature in your sleep space cool.
  6. Lastly, using a white noise machine may help drown out the hustle and bustle of the “normal” people going about their noisy daytime activities and help relax you!

Special Sleep Concerns for Mommies who Hustle

The challenge of working a 3rd shift job can have both positive and negative effects for Pink Collar Ladies (and men). Because I spend most of my professional life at night, I am able to spend most of my daytime hours with my daughter. I take her to school, run her to most of her extracurriculars and still grocery shop and finish work around the house. Being available during the day ensures I get stuff done. I always feel productive!! But my time management skills suck. Most days, I don’t leave enough time to sleep. I have recently employed a few tactics to help me sleep more.

As I mentioned earlier, I purchased and installed room darkening shades! The feeling of walking into my bedroom at noon and slipping in complete darkness automatically starts to relax me, preparing me to sleep right away! I also realized that I needed to eat more regularly. How many of us are literally so busy that we forget to eat? But the moment I lay down, my tummy gurgles reminding me that the 7a.m. Bowl of Captain Crunch (yes I’m an adult and it’s my favorite cereal!!) isn’t sufficient. I eat several smaller meals throughout the day and I keep healthier snacks in my car. Apples and peanut butter is a huge fav for my daughter and I! We also both love cheese or lunch meat on crackers. To keep me on task, I set an alarm every day reminding me that it’s time to go upstairs and sleep before work. I don’t compromise. When the alarm sounds, I kiss my baby good night and lay down. Otherwise I’d get sucked into a project (like sorting my copious amounts of Tupperware…..Next blog topic: How to sort and control your food storage devices!!)

Lastly, I’m lucky, my friends seem to really understand my unusual sleep habits. I’ll admit, I need to do better at keeping in touch with them. In this task, social media is Queen! I am able to follow and comment on my friend’s posts. I also text message a lot and I’m on the phone a fair amount. I also visit with my group of friends as often as possible. Even if it means only staying a few hours and leaving early for work.

The Pretty Package

Listen, I chose to work a 3rd shift job. I love it and no other work schedule offers so much cherished time with my daughter! I can put her to bed at night (which doesn’t happen as often as I’d like) and I’m home before she wakes up. For her it’s like I’ve never left! By recognizing that I have an actual issue and addressing it, I’ve been able to maintain this life style happily for 15 years. I still screw up and many people who know me well are still concerned that I don’t sleep enough.

Managing my disorder is an ever changing process, but I feel that I have been able to greatly reduce the damage SWSD has had on my life! I have more energy and feel more productive! But most importantly, I’m a much calmer, more effective mommy. I’m more awake and engaged for her. We are active and have a ton of fun together! But if any of you see those vampires advertising…..let me know!!!

Women Who Hustle Like Mad and Enjoy the Gains!

 

 

 

Women Who Hustle, Welcome to Pink Collar Couture!

First off, fun, fearless females support and empower one another.  Period, end of story!  Pink Collar Couture Ladies aren’t insecure or intimidated.  They lift up others and offer a safe space to attain their Boss Babe objectives.  PCC girls are living their fab life and are happy to help others.  Furthermore,  this blog delivers content that inspires women who hustle like mad and perpetuates the gains! Most of all we support women, no judgement, no recrimination.  Anyone can achieve luxury and fabulousity regardless of age or status. In addition to great conversations,  awesome lifestyle tips and an amazing sorority of talented, helpful members, PCC will provide a supportive, strong community to share these experiences! Lastly, we will offer regular male-driven input.  We love men!  Every stubborn luscious one of them!  Gentlemen, think of this as taking a peek at our Lady Playbook!   Listen, learn and watch your PCC Lady crush it!

What is a Pink Collar Couture Lady?

I’m glad you asked!  Quick histrory lesson: The term Pink Collar, defines a type of job that was traditionally held by women.  Pink Collar jobs included secretaries, phone operators, teachers and other low paying jobs.  Women have since broken out of those gender definers and mastered every level of commerce, politics, public service and beyond!  Our modern term, “Pink Collar” defines today’s super hero Lady Boss.  A Pink Collar Couture Lady can run it in the board room and come home and knock out an amazing dinner.  As a result, a PCC Lady isn’t afraid to work hard to attain her dream life AND never ashamed to enjoy it to the fullest! Lastly, women should defend and support each other always, and that’s what PCC girls do….with extreme fabulousity!

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